For the first time in months, possibly years, I feel excited. I feel hope. Many of my conversations lately have involved the topic of human elasticity-- a theory I cannot claim, but am loving to further define. It goes a little something like this:
As humans, we are naturally inclined to rebound. We recover; we bounce back. If we don't, we die.
Dustin and I spent hours discussing this the other day because he misunderstood this theory. I made the statement that he and I would both eventually recover and no longer feel pain if we were to divorce or one of us pass on. He took this to mean that, in my mind, I could see a future without him. (That is absolutely not the case.) So, he responded, "but you were worried Grandma would die of a broken heart when Papa died." To which I responded, "EXACTLY!"
Had Grandma not found a life to live, something or someones to bounce back for, she would have ceased to exist; once you cease to claim your life, live your life, you die. There will be a medical reason, sure. Or perhaps you'll sink away from society, by choice or force; you'll become a recluse inside your own mind; turn to substances to remove the catalyst that knocked you down in the first place.
I only know this because I live this.
Whatever road you turn to, you die. You become gray, a background to the colorful palette of the world. All that God has given you, all the reasons for being elastic --stretching, holding-it-together, springing into action-- they're wasted.
And I just can't believe in a God who digs waste (yes, I'm green- deal with it; I'm considered a moderate in my political beliefs on the facebook quiz too if you're all that interested) when I watch the birds not for the vivid-imagination-owning, weak-stomached eat the oats and grains that "pass through" my horses.
So when I realized: Stacia, you are miserable because you choose to be. The cover of your journal says it all: it is never too late to be what you might have been. Of course my soul is troubled. Of course no matter how many anti-depressants or dosage changes I'm assigned, I still feel so completely hopeless, worthless, and invisible because I know what I should be doing. I knew what I should have been doing every August I chose $200-800 over going to the family reunion. I do hate camping; however, when I have been blessed to have a family as amazing as mine, I certainly could have invested in some bug spray and ... I dunno... a holiday inn express?? (hey, that is roughing it-- have you FELT those beds?!).
I hold on to the pain. I hold on to the guilt. I blame other people, when I've never actually ask them or confronted them on the things that are causing negative energy inside of me.
I hold hate in my heart for some. That hurts me, not them. unfortunately... but I digress.
The whole point of being a Buddha-Baptist (and if you hadn't disowned me already, now's your exit-- but for the record, the patriarch and matriarch of this family took me in when I had been living in sin & showed me unconditional love-- isn't judging a sin?) is that you live in each moment, appreciating what you have, and living in a way that should there be a tomorrow, you're grateful for it too. (and a whole lot more, but that's a completely different blog.)
Well, let me sum this incredibly long blog up for you: I am quitting my "prestigious," higher-paid job and going to work for Service Master. I am doing this so that I may move in with my Grandma, who has long been my hero, and show my respect to my Papa by helping her as he and she always helped me. Dustin will eventually move there as well; we have some housing issues to work out, but I am sure you all agree that Grandma doesn't deserve to spend another holiday with just Jordan. I hope to learn so much more living there for whatever time God allows me. If I can fight my personal demons and learn some self-discipline, I hope to record some of the millions of stories we all enjoy hearing.
Because I do have regrets. I regret not doing this much sooner. I regret putting more stock into owning a nice car or having a bigger tv than spending a weekend with people who have since passed.
but no more. Buddhists don't have regrets. Yesterday is gone. Tomorrow is not guaranteed. All we have is right now, right here. So I'm taking my right here, right now, and moving 2.5 hours South indefinitely. I will work at a place that I hope even the title reminds me the value of being a servant, and gives me so much more appreciation for a Master. I want to get out from behind a desk, work hard, laugh harder, and love unconditionally.
Ambitious? si, si senore.
But
I can do everything through Christ who strengthens me.and
Philippians 4:13
"The journey of a thousand miles starts with a single step."
Lao Tzu